We always misconstrued being ignored and busy. Where people needs time alone and needs to have their own time. Own time and pre-occupied with school, work, or family matters. We must always remember that a person's world doesn't always revolved or depend on a specific individual. We have our own task and priorities that we must attend too. If you yourself know that you need to focus on something first and you value your own time first, isn't it becoming selfish if we don't give others that privilege as well?
A perfect relationship doesn't only rely on good communication. It's a combination of trust, respect, and good understanding. You can't force someone to give you time if the circumstance doesn't allow him/her to do so. We must trust them if we want to get the same in return. Same goes with respect, if you know he/she is showing it to you or make you feel about it, then give that same amount to them as well. Vis a vis with mutual understanding. If he/she always allot a huge amount of time and effort to understand you, then please do the same.
If we know ourselves that we have our own priorities, then the same applies to every people you meet. You can't always be their first priority. Priority is an hierarchy based on situation, events, needs, and others perspective. Keep in mind that you maybe important but you're not always their priority. Let's remove from our mindset that if a person does love you, he/she will only dedicate his/her time to you.
Yes there's a saying that "no man is an island". However, in life, we learn to grow and become who we are and who we want to be, not always because of other's help. It's because we learned to stand and learned to face the struggles that we encounter along the way on our own. When it comes to love, be it man or woman, we should always take into consideration that love is a complicated thing. Making an assumption that the other side is not doing their part or not fulfilling what you expect them to do is making it more complicated. So let's not overthink and just trust the process.
Being busy is not a negative word. Being busy doesn't mean you're forgotten or not given importance. Instead, take it on a positive note. They maybe busy because they want to achieve something on their own. They maybe busy because they want to prove to themselves that "Yes I did it all by myself". They maybe busy because they have better plans for you and with your relationship. That making them busy is the only way to do it. Life is short and full if negativity. Don't make it complicated and just enjoy every moment of it. Busy or not, let's not question it and just respect each other's priorities.
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