Is it worth it?

Was there a time where you fall in love with someone but was given the opportunity to get to know the person but something seems ain’t right along the way? You feel important at first but suddenly being with him/her is like a tragedy that about to happen.

Loving someone may take time but how long? With every moment, every chances, it falls apart and you’re being taken for granted. The time spent is not progressing and it appears to be just being wasted.

I know we have different love languages. But what if that special someone have none for you. It’s like keeping the light on just to say there’s a light. It’s like saying I love you but that person doesn’t know the true meaning of love.

Is it worth it to be with the person who doesn’t show any importance or doesn’t even acknowledge your effort? It it worth it to linger on every instances you’re together but it feels a burden to the other person instead of cherishing every moments you’re together? Is it worth it just to say you have a special someone but doesn’t treat you special and you’re just one of the those strangers that come to his/her life? Tell me, if it’s still worth it?

Trust or Bypass?

Just when you thought you feel at ease talking, sharing secrets, giving your trust to that someone, then suddenly you found out that the feeling is not mutual. Do you think it’s fair or unjust? Do you think you’re being selfless or just plain selfish? Do you think it’s because you’re too shy or because you’re worrying too much that may result to lie?

Before you do things or act on something, please bear in mind what the other party might feel. Be it simple or complex situation, there’s nothing more relaxing to feel if someone trust you and comfortable sharing it with you. If not, then why the need to stay and waste your time to be with that special one.

Small conflicts can lead to big misunderstandings and even total breakups. If you don’t know something, then you can always ask. If you’re unsure, then try to find out. If you’re not aware, then search and investigate. But please, just make sure you find the answer first to that special someone instead from a total stranger.

Relationship is not a one sided feeling. It’s a product of shared thoughts and emotions. A result of a mutual understanding cultivated from honesty, loyalty, and trust.

Affection turning to delusion

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I know we are only human. Making mistakes and falling in love. But why do we need to endure heartaches and suffering from simply wanting to find the perfect one? Is this how the world revolves? Is this nature doing it’s sole purpose? Is this something pre-planned before we even been conceived?

When we get attracted to someone, is it really because we want them or just simply because we want to escape our sad reality? Don’t let the good looks fool you. Don’t let the mere kindness indulge you. Sometimes they just do it because it’s what they want us to see and feel even if it’s not even genuine.

Finding true happiness isn’t always satisfying your eyes. Finding your inner peace isn’t always feeling important. We should not make it a habit of justifying wrong doings as the same as giving benefit of the doubt. If something ain’t right, then please open your eyes, heart, and mind. Don’t be weak to face the actual situation. And don’t be afraid to ask and answer the question that it’s just an affection leading to delusion.

Learn when to let go and move on but never forget

In a snap, someone may enter and touch our lives. Unexpectedly, we get attach to a stranger blindfolded. Then the question sinks to our minds. Is it destiny that will make us whole and happy? Or just an accident that will hurt us and feel angry?

Life is full of surprises. Just like the famous movie line: “life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get”. We meet people everyday and bump into someone’s world which we may accept or not worthy to stay and just deflect. But what if we choose the former? We live and try to understand that person’s environment just to please him/her to the point it changes us and it made us feel weak and undervalued.

If that’s the case, then we may want to reconsider and rethink our decision. Evaluate our feelings if it’s still worth the sacrifice and gave up a lot. I know it’s hard to find the perfect one for us but don’t make the pursue a one side race where chasing seems to be the end game instead of meeting along the way.

Letting go may seem hard, but why stay if you’re the only one holding the rope and the other side is not even making an effort to make it sturdy and his/her actions is like a fire trying to burn it.

Yes it’s hard to move on since we need to stop our eagerness to talk to that person, hard to stop caring, and hard to erase all the memories you shared and cherish. However, moving on doesn’t mean we need to forget. We may become strangers again to each other’s life but the mementos we have will remind us that it made us happy and at the same time teaches us that loving someone is never an excuse to forget to love ourselves.

Just like a bird soaring and freely flying in the sky, don’t let your happiness depend on another person. We are important, happy, and deserves to be loved just the way we are.

Can’t we really unloved someone?

They say we can’t unloved someone. But the truth is we can and it’s not your own personal choice. It’s not something that we have control over or something that we can manage or manipulate. It’s actually the process that makes us unloved a person.

If someone treats you unimportant, uninvited, or simply just another option; will you still feel you’re with the right person? If someone no longer communicates with you or ignores you; do you still get the eagerness or ecstatic feeling to continuously start a fun or start a good conversation about just any topic with him/her? If a person no longer have the time to be with you or denies to spend just a spare moment with you; doesn’t it ever makes you wonder if you’re still making most of your precious time and not wasting it?

Come to think of it. Yes we may have our own agenda, our own lives, and our own circle. If an individual has true intentions or have true feelings for you, is it too much to ask for a little effort and time to be with you? A small gesture is already appreciated for you not to think twice, but none is given.

Being in love and feeling loved is one of the happiest moment of our lives. Getting attached to a person may seemed inevitable. But stop making it the center of everything. Don’t let it stop you to become a beautiful butterfly. Don’t let it ruin your wings to fly and grow. And most importantly, don’t let it stop you on finding the true happiness that you deserve and the life that you’ve been wanting to immerse.