Affection turning to delusion

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I know we are only human. Making mistakes and falling in love. But why do we need to endure heartaches and suffering from simply wanting to find the perfect one? Is this how the world revolves? Is this nature doing it’s sole purpose? Is this something pre-planned before we even been conceived?

When we get attracted to someone, is it really because we want them or just simply because we want to escape our sad reality? Don’t let the good looks fool you. Don’t let the mere kindness indulge you. Sometimes they just do it because it’s what they want us to see and feel even if it’s not even genuine.

Finding true happiness isn’t always satisfying your eyes. Finding your inner peace isn’t always feeling important. We should not make it a habit of justifying wrong doings as the same as giving benefit of the doubt. If something ain’t right, then please open your eyes, heart, and mind. Don’t be weak to face the actual situation. And don’t be afraid to ask and answer the question that it’s just an affection leading to delusion.

Learn when to let go and move on but never forget

In a snap, someone may enter and touch our lives. Unexpectedly, we get attach to a stranger blindfolded. Then the question sinks to our minds. Is it destiny that will make us whole and happy? Or just an accident that will hurt us and feel angry?

Life is full of surprises. Just like the famous movie line: “life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get”. We meet people everyday and bump into someone’s world which we may accept or not worthy to stay and just deflect. But what if we choose the former? We live and try to understand that person’s environment just to please him/her to the point it changes us and it made us feel weak and undervalued.

If that’s the case, then we may want to reconsider and rethink our decision. Evaluate our feelings if it’s still worth the sacrifice and gave up a lot. I know it’s hard to find the perfect one for us but don’t make the pursue a one side race where chasing seems to be the end game instead of meeting along the way.

Letting go may seem hard, but why stay if you’re the only one holding the rope and the other side is not even making an effort to make it sturdy and his/her actions is like a fire trying to burn it.

Yes it’s hard to move on since we need to stop our eagerness to talk to that person, hard to stop caring, and hard to erase all the memories you shared and cherish. However, moving on doesn’t mean we need to forget. We may become strangers again to each other’s life but the mementos we have will remind us that it made us happy and at the same time teaches us that loving someone is never an excuse to forget to love ourselves.

Just like a bird soaring and freely flying in the sky, don’t let your happiness depend on another person. We are important, happy, and deserves to be loved just the way we are.