Changing Or Learning?

Have you wonder why you act like you're not supposed to? Do you ever feel that everything you do is not always what you used to do? Does it ever cross your mind that you're taking things in a different way? Has it occur to you that you're just simply not yourself?

I'm not saying that acting differently is a wrong thing. Perhaps it's just another stage in our lives that gives us or enlightened us to a different perspective. 

Just like moving out of your comfort zone. It's either a good or a bad thing. It could be a bad thing since we're wandering to a new environment which we know nothing about and we're not really sure if the end of the road could lead to our demise. It could also be a good thing since we're taking a new path that opens opportunity to experience a different side of the world that will show the light to a brighter tomorrow. It could be good or bad since it allows us to compare it from our past experiences.

Life is always a journey. We can never tell that the future awaits. The only way to know is to embrace new stuff and not overshadowed by the memories of the past. Be as it may, we don't really have control on who we meet and how we react to unprecedented situations. We can only hope and pray that it will lead us to better outcome.

Taking chances has its own risk. If we want to grow and experience life has to offer, then we better open our hearts and minds to whoever or whatever we may encounter along the way. Just make sure that in everything we do and in everyone we meet, please always ask these simple questions: "Are we really changing or just simply learning?"

He or She could just be busy???

We always misconstrued being ignored and busy. Where people needs time alone and needs to have their own time. Own time and pre-occupied with school, work, or family matters. We must always remember that a person's world doesn't always revolved or depend on a specific individual. We have our own task and priorities that we must attend too. If you yourself know that you need to focus on something first and you value your own time first, isn't it becoming selfish if we don't give others that privilege as well?

A perfect relationship doesn't only rely on good communication. It's a combination of trust, respect, and good understanding. You can't force someone to give you time if the circumstance doesn't allow him/her to do so. We must trust them if we want to get the same in return. Same goes with respect, if you know he/she is showing it to you or make you feel about it, then give that same amount to them as well. Vis a vis with mutual understanding. If he/she always allot a huge amount of time and effort to understand you, then please do the same.

If we know ourselves that we have our own priorities, then the same applies to every people you meet. You can't always be their first priority. Priority is an hierarchy based on situation, events, needs, and others perspective. Keep in mind that you maybe important but you're not always their priority. Let's remove from our mindset that if a person does love you, he/she will only dedicate his/her time to you.

Yes there's a saying that "no man is an island". However, in life, we learn to grow and become who we are and who we want to be, not always because of other's help. It's because we learned to stand and learned to face the struggles that we encounter along the way on our own. When it comes to love, be it man or woman, we should always take into consideration that love is a complicated thing. Making an assumption that the other side is not doing their part or not fulfilling what you expect them to do is making it more complicated. So let's not overthink and just trust the process.

Being busy is not a negative word. Being busy doesn't mean you're forgotten or not given importance. Instead, take it on a positive note. They maybe busy because they want to achieve something on their own. They maybe busy because they want to prove to themselves that "Yes I did it all by myself". They maybe busy because they have better plans for you and with your relationship. That making them busy is the only way to do it. Life is short and full if negativity. Don't make it complicated and just enjoy every moment of it. Busy or not, let's not question it and just respect each other's priorities.

Sometimes all we need is rest

Most of us are busy that we forget the most vital part of life that we always neglect and don't give importance to, which is to REST. A four letter word that keeps us intact and give us energy when we need to push through. A simple term but when taken and absorbed, allows us to think and ease all our worries.

If you feel you're on the verge of giving up, then lie down and rest. If you feel you're taking actions you're not aware of anymore, then sit back and rest. If you feel you're all alone and the world gave up on you, then, clear your mind and rest. If you feel like giving up and life doesn't give you the satisfaction you want, then close your eyes and rest. If you feel like you're about to do evil on other people or all you do is makes you the bad person, then think, and rest.

People say that sleeping is the best way to rest. Thus, we fail to realize that we don't have control or we never really get the full meaning of rest just by sleeping per se. If you're having second thoughts, feeling uncomfortable, or worst case being depressed, then all we need is to clear our minds and thoughts.

It matters not from what generation we came from. It matters not what age group we belong to. It's no longer relevant what status in life we have. The stress, depression, and problem is always there but it may come in different ways. So the best thing to do is not to act on it. Just make yourself at ease, remove all your burdens at the time being, and most importantly, communicate to the Almighty One.

Rest is always there. It's free and it's something we can always count on. It also comes in different means. It could be a person, it could be a place, or it could be a happy memory. Take one if you need to. Take one if you have to. You just have to take one.

At Peace In Love But Not Crazy In Love

Falling in love doesn't mean you need to also let all your emotions and sanity fall. You may not have control on who'm you'll be attached to since it's a strong burst of emotion that just pops once you're at that point. However, we can still control on how it will turn out and if still worth to continue.

Being observant should be the first thing you need to consider if you know you're going to a different path which was not planned in the first place. Being cautious gives you time to think if it's still the right way or it's leading to a perilous, bizarre, and point of no return space-time continuum.

Just because the situation requires you to act doesn't mean you just need to follow and don't have a way to stop. We are what we do and we do what we feel. Hence, let's not get our own feelings be overthrown and be disregarded just because others wants us or demands us to feel the same way. Don't let your emotions to someone control you, rather, treat it as sign or a test and don't give in to something you are not and don't define you.

If life still doesn't teaches you, then be the person to teach yourself instead. If you still don't learn from the hard way, then be the way and make it harder so you learn in a rock solid I don't give an f way. If loving someone causes you to alienate, then better think twice and don't be afraid to estimate. Indeed we need to live our lives to the fullest but not to the point of being crazy, foolish, and make you less and not be your best.