Label Or No Label?

For two people who are enjoying each other's company both friendly and romantically, we always associate it to situationship. A word that describes a mutual understanding but with no label. But do we really need to have label to be happy and contented? Is label really the basis to be called in a relationship?

We hear people say that if there's one thing that will make them truly happy is to finally get that big yes or to formally be introduced as a couple. Accept it or not, but this is the norm of the society or the world we live in. Having no label, means you're both just wasting each other's time since it may seemed that you're a couple but without the assurance of being a couple at the end. But what if we deter to adhering to such norms and think the way we want. No pressure, no judgements, and no negativity.

In this era where love and relationships easily come and go, do we really still need to put a label every time we fall in love? If you'll ask me, I don't think so. I don't think it's necessary. If that no label relationship makes you happy, then go ahead and cherish every moment. It's just a matter of how you perceive each other's words and actions. If you don't see anything wrong, then why stop.

I guess label is just word. A word that puts pressure and a stereotype to two people who are just enjoying life with no worries and just being ecstatic. With label or not, it doesn't matter. What matter is both you are in pure bliss and no stigma of what people has to say.

Not every feeling has to have a label. Not every relationship has to be named. Some emotions aren't meant to be understood. They're just meant to be felt. With or without label...

In perfect time

Why do we rush things in life? Why do we need to make things complicated? Who are we to question what life is giving us? What if we just sit tight, relax but still open our hearts and minds to all the possibilities that life has to offer.

Struggles, pain, and even sorrow plays part of a bigger picture in our life. So is success, pleasure, and happiness. But what really matters is we stood our ground on these situations and it didn’t let us stop our journey along the way. Instead it helps us to persevere and continue in hoping it will lead to greater outcome. Just like the weather, it could be bad today but a lovely one tomorrow.

Remember, there is no "right time", there's just time, and what you choose to do with it. Instead of waiting for perfect conditions or more time, focus on making the most of the time you have right now.

They say that imperfections of a person doesn’t define them but it only makes them a complete, vulnerable yet contented human being. Same with time, there’s no right or wrong time but when stars align, you no longer have to wait nor stop trying cause sooner or later it will give you the exact scene destined for you. A right amount of this and a right amount of that. A beautiful ending to your story. A picturesque case of a perfect time.

Does expectation really leads to assumption?

We always tend to manifest things that are not yet tangible or out of reach. But why do we do this? Is it because this is the future that we want to see? Is it because this is the illusion that we want to dive in?

Past experiences teaches us to not fall for the same mistake. However, sudden burst of happy feelings nullify this and give us hope that the new one is different and the outcome is worth fighting for.

Sometimes we tend to ignore the prima facie evidence of someone being a red flag or skip to the good part while the bad part is already showing in front of us because we feel loved and important. We get lost and no longer keep track of reality since what we see and hear makes us or give us bliss along the way. A promising one that we will forever cherish.

Since our mind is overshadowed with fulfillment and happiness, a small bump is being ignored or a tiny mistake is taken for granted. No one to blame since it gives us excitement and joy while we ride the journey along the way. But what if we stopped for a bit and have a reality checked? Would it hurt if do a small pause just to make sure everything is still intact. I don’t think so.

I know it’s hard to wake up from a dream that we always want to indulge in. A wish that we always hope that will eventually come true. But we should always remember and consider that everything is not perfect as it seems. 

We should always remember that all the best things in life don’t have flaws or negative consequences. That everything must always come to an end. Thus, we should be also be vigilant and not consumed by the expectations that we always longed for. Little do we realize that our expectation only gave us a hiccup of happiness that will soon lead us to heart-breaking situation and end up with a dreadful assumption.

Ready to fall in love again?

There are instances in our lives that being alone and not be bothered makes us feel calm and contented. But in reality, we’re just taking a break and moment of silence. A break from traumatic experience and wrongful decisions from sudden burst of emotions. A moment of silence from the noises of pressure and despair of not finding the right one for us.

But what if we meet someone unexpectedly? A person who we don’t know but gives a little spark. A spark that is enough to light a match and gives light that will wake our sleeping fantasy. Will you just ignore it since it might just be another false alarm which only leads to another delusion? Or will you give it a chance and grab it in hoping that it’s the right window or door that we’ve been waiting to open?

No one knows what the future holds. Thus, making a small opening to our heart and letting someone get inside may not be a big of a trouble. However, don’t let it be the same feeling that succumbed you to desperation and heartbreak. Just give a small chance but not expecting anything in return. Making it simple where if it works, then it works. If it doesn’t, then it doesn’t. Don’t make it complicated and just go with the flow but not yet investing emotions and not getting things deeper in a swift. Taking things slow and letting itself unravel along the way.

There’s no such thing as waiting for the right moment for us to open our hearts again to others. Instead, we must be ready to seize the opportunity that is presented to us when we see it’s the perfect timing and it’s the right decision for us to venture again. We just don’t wait and not do anything. We need to prepare ourselves and be ready that it could be the right time for us to feel important. The right time for us to be accepted and valued. The right time for us to fall in love again.

Could it just be another irish wish?

What if what we see is not really what we’re looking for? What if the dream we dreamed was supposedly the opposite of the reality we need to live in? What if the person offered to us is not really the right one? What if the fantasy we seek is just an illusion of what we truly deserve? Will you take the risk to differ or will you stay and not knowing things could be better?

Wanting something may not be the thing we needed. A want for longing but not the one we need to satisfy our sense of belonging. A want for accepting but not the one we need which will wholeheartedly embrace us with no need for thinking. Just another want just to satisfy a part of us but not the actual thing we truly need to make us feel complete but not in a rush.

Living in your usual life could just be lie and won’t show what we really sought after. It could just be something we need to see but not really what we wanted. Are we willing to just accept it and just go with the flow not knowing it’s not the future worth fighting and living for? Hence, we better think twice and decide on the path we need to choose with nothing to lose.

As a child, we have our own wishes. Wish to be rich once we grow old but never gives satisfaction once achieved. Wish to be accepted by everyone with the exception of not by the one person who truly matters most. Wish that we need to experience first to teach us a lesson and enlighten us before we make abrupt decision and not carefully thinking it and just making another irish wish.

We are who we are

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a change of scenery? A change of environment? Or a change of pace in our life? A life where we are no longer afraid of people around judging us? A world where we no longer need to pretend of who we are and what we want? Silly it may sound but who knows right?

Once in our lives, we were judged and scrutinized by the way we talk, we walk, and the way we act. We are also judged by our own decisions since it’s unusual or not the norm. We are also judged by the way we see things which is odd in the eyes of others. But do we really need to care about what they say or what they think?

We often change or adhere to the usual way since we’re scared of what people may perceive about us. We are also afraid of the negative effects of our unusual actions to our friends and loved ones. But are we really happy and contented by lying to ourselves? Lying which is sacrificing our own story and what we could’ve been?

In this era that we lived in now, people will always have something to say even if we did it their way or alleviates with their beliefs and standards. Why can’t we just be ourselves and do what we think is right from our own perspectives. Living free and taking risks with no regrets and what ifs. At the end of the day, no one can control our lives but us and only us alone.

Let’s take a leap of faith not worrying of others might think or feel about it. We are born this way and what we do is none of their business. This is what we choose and this is the path that we want to take. We are who we are.

Save the best for last?

In a world full of heartbreaks and sadness, can we really still find the right and hopefully the last one for us? The one who’ll stay and be with our side no matter what? I still believe and trust that it will still happen.

They say there are people who are hopeless romantic. Hopeless romantic to find the perfect match? Hopeless romantic to finally meet the person we long to have? Hopeless romantic to end our delusions to infinite love with no limitations.

Along the way, we meet different individuals. One that will satisfy our lust but will end with no fuss. One that will help us to grow but will eventually leave us once we’re at the peak and hit us a big blow. There could also be someone that will shape our personality and help us change for the better but no longer gives a damn in an instant when things go south and when life gets harder.

Living a life full of failures and disappointments, we tend to lose hope and interest that someday, somehow, we’ll still meet and end up with the person that we truly deserve. It may not be the perfect person (who’s perfect anyway?) nor the perfect relationship but it’s the person who was and has always been there which you’ll finally end up with. Not pretentious, not sugarcoating and has no filter. Just simply the last one who was prepared and saved as the best that will surely last.

Unexpectedly

Who would’ve thought that two people will meet at an unexpected time and instance? Two individuals who are not longing for love, care, and attention suddenly cross paths. It seemed impossible but it happened.

It’s like two different worlds accidentally bumped into each other by fate and by chance. Both not looking for anything but just enjoying life as it is. Two lives not expecting from anyone and just happy being single.

Maybe it’s true that life is really unpredictable. Anything can happen and anything can also end. Anything can happen like meeting someone who you’ll never think will come to your life. Anything can happen like teasing and conversation will lead to learning and understanding. Anything can also end like the feeling of being unwanted and not deserving to be loved.

Indeed life is really full of surprises. Like a line from a popular movie which says: “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get.” We may not be planned to meet in this world but might be destined for one another.

They say right love at the wrong time. But what if we change it to unexpected love at an unexpected time. Unexpected conversations turns into unexpected connections. Unexpected pastimes diverts to unexpected bondings.

Let’s just leave the relationship unexpected and who knows; we might get the respect, attention, importance, and love that we deserve unexpectedly.

Is it worth it?

Was there a time where you fall in love with someone but was given the opportunity to get to know the person but something seems ain’t right along the way? You feel important at first but suddenly being with him/her is like a tragedy that about to happen.

Loving someone may take time but how long? With every moment, every chances, it falls apart and you’re being taken for granted. The time spent is not progressing and it appears to be just being wasted.

I know we have different love languages. But what if that special someone have none for you. It’s like keeping the light on just to say there’s a light. It’s like saying I love you but that person doesn’t know the true meaning of love.

Is it worth it to be with the person who doesn’t show any importance or doesn’t even acknowledge your effort? It it worth it to linger on every instances you’re together but it feels a burden to the other person instead of cherishing every moments you’re together? Is it worth it just to say you have a special someone but doesn’t treat you special and you’re just one of the those strangers that come to his/her life? Tell me, if it’s still worth it?

Trust or Bypass?

Just when you thought you feel at ease talking, sharing secrets, giving your trust to that someone, then suddenly you found out that the feeling is not mutual. Do you think it’s fair or unjust? Do you think you’re being selfless or just plain selfish? Do you think it’s because you’re too shy or because you’re worrying too much that may result to lie?

Before you do things or act on something, please bear in mind what the other party might feel. Be it simple or complex situation, there’s nothing more relaxing to feel if someone trust you and comfortable sharing it with you. If not, then why the need to stay and waste your time to be with that special one.

Small conflicts can lead to big misunderstandings and even total breakups. If you don’t know something, then you can always ask. If you’re unsure, then try to find out. If you’re not aware, then search and investigate. But please, just make sure you find the answer first to that special someone instead from a total stranger.

Relationship is not a one sided feeling. It’s a product of shared thoughts and emotions. A result of a mutual understanding cultivated from honesty, loyalty, and trust.

Affection turning to delusion

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

I know we are only human. Making mistakes and falling in love. But why do we need to endure heartaches and suffering from simply wanting to find the perfect one? Is this how the world revolves? Is this nature doing it’s sole purpose? Is this something pre-planned before we even been conceived?

When we get attracted to someone, is it really because we want them or just simply because we want to escape our sad reality? Don’t let the good looks fool you. Don’t let the mere kindness indulge you. Sometimes they just do it because it’s what they want us to see and feel even if it’s not even genuine.

Finding true happiness isn’t always satisfying your eyes. Finding your inner peace isn’t always feeling important. We should not make it a habit of justifying wrong doings as the same as giving benefit of the doubt. If something ain’t right, then please open your eyes, heart, and mind. Don’t be weak to face the actual situation. And don’t be afraid to ask and answer the question that it’s just an affection leading to delusion.

Learn when to let go and move on but never forget

In a snap, someone may enter and touch our lives. Unexpectedly, we get attach to a stranger blindfolded. Then the question sinks to our minds. Is it destiny that will make us whole and happy? Or just an accident that will hurt us and feel angry?

Life is full of surprises. Just like the famous movie line: “life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re going to get”. We meet people everyday and bump into someone’s world which we may accept or not worthy to stay and just deflect. But what if we choose the former? We live and try to understand that person’s environment just to please him/her to the point it changes us and it made us feel weak and undervalued.

If that’s the case, then we may want to reconsider and rethink our decision. Evaluate our feelings if it’s still worth the sacrifice and gave up a lot. I know it’s hard to find the perfect one for us but don’t make the pursue a one side race where chasing seems to be the end game instead of meeting along the way.

Letting go may seem hard, but why stay if you’re the only one holding the rope and the other side is not even making an effort to make it sturdy and his/her actions is like a fire trying to burn it.

Yes it’s hard to move on since we need to stop our eagerness to talk to that person, hard to stop caring, and hard to erase all the memories you shared and cherish. However, moving on doesn’t mean we need to forget. We may become strangers again to each other’s life but the mementos we have will remind us that it made us happy and at the same time teaches us that loving someone is never an excuse to forget to love ourselves.

Just like a bird soaring and freely flying in the sky, don’t let your happiness depend on another person. We are important, happy, and deserves to be loved just the way we are.

Can’t we really unloved someone?

They say we can’t unloved someone. But the truth is we can and it’s not your own personal choice. It’s not something that we have control over or something that we can manage or manipulate. It’s actually the process that makes us unloved a person.

If someone treats you unimportant, uninvited, or simply just another option; will you still feel you’re with the right person? If someone no longer communicates with you or ignores you; do you still get the eagerness or ecstatic feeling to continuously start a fun or start a good conversation about just any topic with him/her? If a person no longer have the time to be with you or denies to spend just a spare moment with you; doesn’t it ever makes you wonder if you’re still making most of your precious time and not wasting it?

Come to think of it. Yes we may have our own agenda, our own lives, and our own circle. If an individual has true intentions or have true feelings for you, is it too much to ask for a little effort and time to be with you? A small gesture is already appreciated for you not to think twice, but none is given.

Being in love and feeling loved is one of the happiest moment of our lives. Getting attached to a person may seemed inevitable. But stop making it the center of everything. Don’t let it stop you to become a beautiful butterfly. Don’t let it ruin your wings to fly and grow. And most importantly, don’t let it stop you on finding the true happiness that you deserve and the life that you’ve been wanting to immerse.

Would you?

We always misinterpret or miscalculate how little time we have in this world. We are more focused on the big cheap things instead of the small precious ones. We don’t give importance on how soon we can enjoy every little piece of what we have while we’re still living and exploring this world.

Most of the times, we tend to ask our loved ones these questions:

“What if I only have little time in this world? Would you rather still attend to your errands, instead of attending to my needs and spending quality time with me?”

“Would you rather focus on school or work, instead of making me your top priority?”

“Would you rather have family time instead of being with me?”

“Would you rather go party with your friends instead of seeing me?”

“Would you pretend not to care and just waste your time looking for new things but your mind is not always there?”

“Would you keep your eyes shut instead of staring at me?”

“Would you keep your silence instead of talking to me?”

We hate begging for time cause it’s not healthy and it’s not the right thing to do. If you only have one last day to be with that person, would you take it for granted and be busy with your own personal life? Or would you grab the opportunity and make every moment of it to be with him/her and create wonderful, happy, and unforgettable memories while he/she is still here. Would you?

Changing Or Learning?

Have you wonder why you act like you're not supposed to? Do you ever feel that everything you do is not always what you used to do? Does it ever cross your mind that you're taking things in a different way? Has it occur to you that you're just simply not yourself?

I'm not saying that acting differently is a wrong thing. Perhaps it's just another stage in our lives that gives us or enlightened us to a different perspective. 

Just like moving out of your comfort zone. It's either a good or a bad thing. It could be a bad thing since we're wandering to a new environment which we know nothing about and we're not really sure if the end of the road could lead to our demise. It could also be a good thing since we're taking a new path that opens opportunity to experience a different side of the world that will show the light to a brighter tomorrow. It could be good or bad since it allows us to compare it from our past experiences.

Life is always a journey. We can never tell that the future awaits. The only way to know is to embrace new stuff and not overshadowed by the memories of the past. Be as it may, we don't really have control on who we meet and how we react to unprecedented situations. We can only hope and pray that it will lead us to better outcome.

Taking chances has its own risk. If we want to grow and experience life has to offer, then we better open our hearts and minds to whoever or whatever we may encounter along the way. Just make sure that in everything we do and in everyone we meet, please always ask these simple questions: "Are we really changing or just simply learning?"

He or She could just be busy???

We always misconstrued being ignored and busy. Where people needs time alone and needs to have their own time. Own time and pre-occupied with school, work, or family matters. We must always remember that a person's world doesn't always revolved or depend on a specific individual. We have our own task and priorities that we must attend too. If you yourself know that you need to focus on something first and you value your own time first, isn't it becoming selfish if we don't give others that privilege as well?

A perfect relationship doesn't only rely on good communication. It's a combination of trust, respect, and good understanding. You can't force someone to give you time if the circumstance doesn't allow him/her to do so. We must trust them if we want to get the same in return. Same goes with respect, if you know he/she is showing it to you or make you feel about it, then give that same amount to them as well. Vis a vis with mutual understanding. If he/she always allot a huge amount of time and effort to understand you, then please do the same.

If we know ourselves that we have our own priorities, then the same applies to every people you meet. You can't always be their first priority. Priority is an hierarchy based on situation, events, needs, and others perspective. Keep in mind that you maybe important but you're not always their priority. Let's remove from our mindset that if a person does love you, he/she will only dedicate his/her time to you.

Yes there's a saying that "no man is an island". However, in life, we learn to grow and become who we are and who we want to be, not always because of other's help. It's because we learned to stand and learned to face the struggles that we encounter along the way on our own. When it comes to love, be it man or woman, we should always take into consideration that love is a complicated thing. Making an assumption that the other side is not doing their part or not fulfilling what you expect them to do is making it more complicated. So let's not overthink and just trust the process.

Being busy is not a negative word. Being busy doesn't mean you're forgotten or not given importance. Instead, take it on a positive note. They maybe busy because they want to achieve something on their own. They maybe busy because they want to prove to themselves that "Yes I did it all by myself". They maybe busy because they have better plans for you and with your relationship. That making them busy is the only way to do it. Life is short and full if negativity. Don't make it complicated and just enjoy every moment of it. Busy or not, let's not question it and just respect each other's priorities.

Sometimes all we need is rest

Most of us are busy that we forget the most vital part of life that we always neglect and don't give importance to, which is to REST. A four letter word that keeps us intact and give us energy when we need to push through. A simple term but when taken and absorbed, allows us to think and ease all our worries.

If you feel you're on the verge of giving up, then lie down and rest. If you feel you're taking actions you're not aware of anymore, then sit back and rest. If you feel you're all alone and the world gave up on you, then, clear your mind and rest. If you feel like giving up and life doesn't give you the satisfaction you want, then close your eyes and rest. If you feel like you're about to do evil on other people or all you do is makes you the bad person, then think, and rest.

People say that sleeping is the best way to rest. Thus, we fail to realize that we don't have control or we never really get the full meaning of rest just by sleeping per se. If you're having second thoughts, feeling uncomfortable, or worst case being depressed, then all we need is to clear our minds and thoughts.

It matters not from what generation we came from. It matters not what age group we belong to. It's no longer relevant what status in life we have. The stress, depression, and problem is always there but it may come in different ways. So the best thing to do is not to act on it. Just make yourself at ease, remove all your burdens at the time being, and most importantly, communicate to the Almighty One.

Rest is always there. It's free and it's something we can always count on. It also comes in different means. It could be a person, it could be a place, or it could be a happy memory. Take one if you need to. Take one if you have to. You just have to take one.

At Peace In Love But Not Crazy In Love

Falling in love doesn't mean you need to also let all your emotions and sanity fall. You may not have control on who'm you'll be attached to since it's a strong burst of emotion that just pops once you're at that point. However, we can still control on how it will turn out and if still worth to continue.

Being observant should be the first thing you need to consider if you know you're going to a different path which was not planned in the first place. Being cautious gives you time to think if it's still the right way or it's leading to a perilous, bizarre, and point of no return space-time continuum.

Just because the situation requires you to act doesn't mean you just need to follow and don't have a way to stop. We are what we do and we do what we feel. Hence, let's not get our own feelings be overthrown and be disregarded just because others wants us or demands us to feel the same way. Don't let your emotions to someone control you, rather, treat it as sign or a test and don't give in to something you are not and don't define you.

If life still doesn't teaches you, then be the person to teach yourself instead. If you still don't learn from the hard way, then be the way and make it harder so you learn in a rock solid I don't give an f way. If loving someone causes you to alienate, then better think twice and don't be afraid to estimate. Indeed we need to live our lives to the fullest but not to the point of being crazy, foolish, and make you less and not be your best.

What if we take it slow and keep it low?

In this fast-paced environment, what if we just take it slow? Making one move and one step at a time. Creating simple moments for every single occasion. Sometimes we never lose control of our goals and ourselves if we just chill out and won’t make decisions abruptly.

In a world full of expectations and indefinite reality, what if we just lay-low and contemplate? In this era of ever changing and instant happenings, living and enjoying every moments give us more satisfaction instead of following the new trends.

We could also take a pinch of privacy. Relish the peaceful and anonymity of life. Not everything should be tell and sell cause there’s a possibility it will fell and tear in the end. I’m not saying being famous and loud is bad, but what if we learn to keep some parts of us hidden? Hidden from demeanors mocking. Hidden from the public eyes that judge us even when there’s none to hunch and away from a bunch of mutts.

Let’s settle and live a life with no worries. Let’s give time a break and be discreet of our personal matters. Waiting won’t hurt and concealing won’t be a target for someone who’s only intention is to lurk.

Lie low and hold back

If you feel you’re making an impression of overdoing things or feeling clingy, then please stop. It you feel you’re going overboard to the person’s life, then please stop. If you feel you make him/her uncomfortable, then please stop.

Stop doesn’t mean you want to let go. Stop means you need to set boundaries and make that person feel you don’t overstep on his/her privacy. Stop is keeping you away from being obsessed and have a good discernment. Stop is to not make that person feel he/she is okay with his/her comfort zone.

Yes we can give and do so much when we’re in love or cared a lot to a person. However, we should also make sure we’re not making the person feel unease and agitated. It’s okay to care, to be jealous, to wonder, and to be curious. But we should also think of ourselves and be mindful of our own lives. Let’s not make it a habit of being crazy and make our world just revolve around a specific person’s life.

We have our own lives. We have our own circle. So if you think you’re overstepping, take a step back, ponder, lay low, and hold back.